It's not you, It's me
Getting to that level of consciousness can be a big challenge, but is not as complicated as it seems. It becomes much easier when we realize that our own happiness is at stake, and someone elses mind, thoughts, comments or decisions is definitely the worst place to place it.
Every day I am more convinced that men suffer, not for what happens, but for what he interprets. Many times we suffer trying to give answers to questions that drilled our mind such as: Why didn't he/she call me? Does he/she think about me? Why didn't he/she tell me what I wanted to hear? Why did that bother me? Why did they stare at me in that ugly way? and many others reasons I will skip.
We don't suffer because of what people do, but because of what we interpret from their actions, and that's a direct result of giving control to someone else.
"I need Luis to tell me that he loves me even though I know that's a lie I just want to hear it from his mouth and have him visit me from time to time even though I know he has another family, because I promise you that I can settle with that. Without it... I feel like I'm dying. "
Wow! I could not belive it! Does that really mean true happiness? Isn't it a constant martyrdom to have someone deciding our mood and well-being? You want to force another person to feel what he clearly doesn't?
A man is able to snatch everything except one thing: The last of human freedoms is the choice of personal attitude against a target or determined path"